Published August 19th, 2003 by Jim O'Halloran
Meeting the Perfect Someone
This sounds like me…
I don’t really go to bars or parties or participate in the stereotypical “dating scene.” Remember, I’m a geek. I have an aversion to big groups unless I’m standing in front with a microphone. I’d rather stay at home and read something. Or go to a movie with some friends. I really don’t need all the fake pressures, expectations, and other bullshit that goes with the dating scene. In fact, now that I think about it, I’m a little surprised at how many people do put up with it.
… but its not. Jeremy is talking about himself here. I can feel his pain though.
When my wife and I met, neither of us were actively looking for a relationship, and neither of us are really into the whole dating, bars and clubs thing. As it happened, meeting first in IRC worked out well, because it gave us a chance to get to know each other without having to make that “first impression”.
Later when we did meet, it was as friends, where there was no pressure or expectation that it would ever lead to anything more than that. That it eventually worked out that way is something that we’re both grateful for, but thats not what we were looing for in the beginning.